“You will get there when you are meant to get there. So relax, breathe and be patient.”
Dear 25 year old Judy,
You are at an interesting age – you are out in the “real” world, trying to figure out what you want to do , who you want to be and what your real purpose is on this amazing earth. You aren’t in college anymore; you have bills to pay, obligations, but you want to be able to play, enjoy life, travel. There’s a whole world out there to conquer – where do you start?
Well first of all, it’s important to remember there is no “perfect” time for things in life – whether it be starting a business, getting married, buying a house, taking that trip, having children, etc. If you wait for the perfect time, it will never happen. If something is important to you, you need to make it a priority and go for it.
Don’t forget to look around yourself; you are surrounded by the most amazing role models of what it means to live a full and meaningful life. Your parents and in laws are self made people, who have worked hard, not only to provide for their families, but also to make a difference, and as Eric always says, to make the world a better place.
As your parents taught you, you have to be able to make a living. Try to find something to do that you enjoy and can feel good about at the end of the day, because we all spend lot of our lives at work. And if you can work for yourself, all the better. That way you are in charge of your own destiny and you don’t have to report to anyone except yourself.
Do make time (lots if possible) for fun, playing and laughter. Life can be tough, but if you smile and laugh, you will instantly feel better. And when things do get tough, always remember that things could always be worse! Don’t forget to count your blessings.
Take time to reflect on what your want out of your life. You will be busy and get caught up in the daily grind, but if you don’t take time to re-evaluate things, you can easily lose sight of what is really important.
Make time for prayer in your life. If you pause to be thankful for your many blessings, you will probably appreciate all you have even more. And, when life throws you a curveball, prayer, and all the wonderful things that Judaism offers, will give you the strength to carry on.
Love your family and don’t forget to tell them how you feel. You will not have regrets when the day comes when they aren’t around anymore. Tell them how they have impacted your life. You will be so glad you did this.
When you have children, be their role model, not their friend. Kids need structure and discipline. It’s much easier to let them rule the roost, but as they get older, you will be sorry you werent’ stronger. Teach them about the things that are important to you in life, and walk the walk. It is more important to do than to say.
Don’t forget to make your husband your best friend. Remember that the kids will grow and leave your nest; it’s important to make your relationship with your spouse a priority.
Enjoy life. Look at your parents, who, despite tough beginnings, made a wonderful life and family and always enjoyed. Look at the glass as half full, not half empty.
As your Dad always says, “to life, to life, l’chayim!” Live, love, laugh!
