Carlos,
8 years have passed already since you were 25. I can remember vividly how young and carefree you were. It was a hard time in your life since you had already become a father and you are still in the middle of your career at the university. Practically without any work experience and now with a family to feed. This is what I want to tell you from the bottom of my heart:
First of all, everything is going to be alright as long as you start to care more about the important things in life: Your family and your dear ones and how you can provide them the best quality of life. You need to try to be a better person harder and now. Don´t wait for bad experiences to start changing things on your life style.
Having fun is good, but if you do not control yourself, it will delay the achievement of your goals, you could even never reach them.
Do not spend much time in relationships that do not work for you or your gut tells you they won´t work. Look for someone who makes you feel different and makes a better man of you every day in every way .
Start saving money and do not go crazy when you have enough to spend it on things that are not worth it .
Stay away from gambling. Invest your money on productive things.
Work out more. Playing football is fun but not enough. A couple of hours at the gym are necessary to be in a really good shape.
Try to be the best father in the world everyday.
Spend more time with your grandmother. She will not be around for many more years and you ‘ll miss her a lot when she’s gone.
Read all the books your dad gave you and always listen to his advise. He is NEVER wrong and do not wait until you are 32 to thank him for all he has done for you throughout your life.
Improve your relationship with Mom. She is not always scolding you.
Your brother is your best friend in the world and will always be, but I guess you already knew that.
Never stop playing guitar. It will bring you joy in the future, specially when you are sad.
Enjoy every minute of your life, because it is wonderful.
Anyway, this is what I would tell to myself at 25.
With Love,
33 Year Old Carlos.
